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You ever notice how your personality changes somewhat depending on the people you're around? I'm not sure it's about subconsciously trying to fit in, but I'm not sure it's not, either. Certain people just seem to make certain facets of my personality display themselves more prominently. Or am I just a freak?
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Re: amorphic
Tue, February 3, 2004 - 4:18 PMNo, you're right. And you're a freak. I certainly act different around particular people. I'm not Mr Macho, but when I'm with a group of guys, I'll do a kegstand in an instant; but with girls around I might be less apt to do so. Then I have my groups of friends that act all "straight thuggin" and I'll tend to sort of act like them when I'm around them, but it's mostly in mockery of them as opposed to like, imitating or trying to BE like them.
I think it works on different levels.
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Re: amorphic
Tue, February 3, 2004 - 4:44 PMI think you're a freak, but I also think you're right that most of us operate this way. My friend Hannah may be the exception.
Maybe it's a continuum...completely mutable to immutable. I think I've moved on the continuum as I've gotten older. I think I care less about what people think about me and don't have strong a need to be liked by all, so I tend to be more myself across circumstances in a way that I wasn't in my younger days.
But sure...I'm different with many of my colleagues than I am with the people closest to me. One friend of mine can bring out my crazy, spontaneous side, and another brings out my philosophical side. -
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Re: amorphic
Tue, February 3, 2004 - 9:39 PMI think that there is no core self to individuals - who we truly are depends upon who you are around. This idea of the social self is an important one in social psychology, and I think applies very generally. But what a self is I think depends upon the sociocultural matrix in which one is embedded. What is a self to someone in a different culture is very different than in our own, and it is important to consider this variability in the self to understand how the self is constructed and construed in different cultural contexts. -
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Re: amorphic
Wed, February 4, 2004 - 12:05 AMDo you write textbooks? Seriously, that sounded like some straight-up textbook shit. lmao
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Re: amorphic
Wed, February 4, 2004 - 3:29 AMExcellent point, Sean.
Personally I find myself adapting to the traits of others when I am with them in person. On the internet, however, I always take an adversarial role. Something wrong with me, perhaps? I love playing Devil's advocate.
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Re: amorphic
Mon, March 1, 2004 - 12:49 PMI think so. Even the way I talk takes on a life of its own. But, am I being stretch armstrong or am I trying subconsciously to bring some sort of aural resonance to the situation? (and in doing so help us all feel warmer and fuzzier?)
MC
